10 Lesson’s on Love to learn from Ross & Rachel’s Relationship

Ross and Rachel, the iconic couple from Friends prove that true love never dies, no matter how dysfunctional it is. Through the ten seasons that followed, their relationship became a merry-go-round of falling in and out of love and delivered the infamous “we were on a break” trope.

For romance obessives this Valentine’s, we have a list of 10 lessons we could learn from Ross and Rachel’s longest and most unpredictable history of romance.

LESSON ONE: Never give up on love

“The course of true love never did run smooth.” That’s right! As much as we think the crazy couple would part ways, we are constantly reminded that the two were meant to be together since they were teenagers. Despite their constant muck ups, the idea that persistence inevitably wins the hearts of lovers, finally got them together once and for all. So, fight hard for what you really want, because no one’s going to serve it to you in a silver platter.


LESSON TWO: Love has its crazy moments, but it’s not stupid


Every love story gets wacky and insane at times (well, most of the times), but that doesn’t mean it’s stupid: it only means two people not giving up on each other. Sometimes relationship are like Katy Perry’s famous song, Hot and Cold: “You don’t really wanna stay, no! But, you really don’t wanna go, oh.”

Nevertheless, Ross and Rachel had a connection that words cannot explain. They always have and they always will, which pretty much justifies all their crazed out and preposterous moments.


LESSON THREE: Everything comes together in a surprising way

Through the years it was a complicated situation between Ross and Rachel. The two dated other people, got married, then divorced and had a child together. Who should except them to finally reunite? It is because great thing come in way you might not see coming. Only when Rachel decides to take her new job in France does she realize that she cannot live without Ross. In an erratic move, Rachel gets off the plane and confesses her love with a beautiful reunion kiss in Ross’s apartment. Good thing take time, so have plenty of patience!


LESSON FOUR: Hooking up doesn’t fill the hole

Ross and Rachel’s love saga was a never ending love cycle coupled with several moments of breaks up and patch ups. They never really stopped liking each other and somehow always gravitated back. Ross’s marriage with Emily and Rachel’s failed relationship were all events that remind us how desperately they wanted to get over each other but failed miserably. Every single time! Seeking external validation to fill up the holes in your life is not a good idea.


LESSON FIVE: Don’t take things too seriously


If you are in a relationship and things aren’t working out, go easy on yourself and learn from the crazy duo. Ross and Rachel were always having fun; perhaps a little too much! The fun pranks and crazy moments of love and laughter made all the struggle worthwhile.
Enjoy each other ‘s company and never stop having fun.


LESSON SIX: When you share the same friends, they’re going to be involved, too.


Friends are always there to intervene in your life. But, in Ross and Rachel’s sage, they were basically everywhere barely leaving any space to breathe. Why? Because, with friends, nothing ever remains a secret!
If you share the same group of friends as your lover, don’t be surprised if they get too involved and start to think of your relationship as their own.


LESSON SEVEN: True love is built on friendship

You don’t necessarily have to start off a relationship based on love. Support and understand each other, and build on something that can one day turn into love. Who would even imagine Ross’s childhood crush turning into an undying love for Rachel?


LESSON EIGHT: When you’ve found your lobster, you’ll know it.


Lobsters are mates for life (at least, according to Phoebe). And, when you find someone with whom you can spend your forever, hold on to them and don’t let them go, just like the time Ross fell for Rachel in high school.


LESSON NINE: It takes long to realize that he/she is the one.


 “I don’t know if anything is ever going to happen with us again. Ever! But, I don’t know that it never could. ” – Ross

When you meet the love of your life, it might not be immediately clear to you that he or she is the one. From the hopeless high school crush, to the time when Rachel finally gets off the plane and decides to be with Ross, the couple goes through a crazy ride of events that leaves them wondering if they were actually meant for each other. But, the best part is, the two finally get their acts together and live happily ever after. At least, that’s the way we like to think.
To all the hopeless romantics out there, do not lose hope because time takes time.


LESSON TEN: You can never really be “just friends”

Have you heard past lovers say the questionable phrase “we are just friends”? Well, it’s never really the case! At least, not with Ross and Rachel! Just after the Ross/Emily fiasco, Ross decides to fix things between him and his new lover, but fails on grounds of Emily’s condition to stop speaking to Rachel. He finally realized how much he wanted to be with Rachel, once and for all.

“I don’t want to get over her…
I want to be with her.” – Ross

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