While studying, there are usually so many different kinds of people around that you never really get to know. You aren’t expected to know about exactly how many kids went to your high school if they weren’t a part of your clique, and chances are slim that you would even know a portion of people who attended your grad school, because you never had to look beyond your diverse lectures to meet like minded people.
But then, you graduate. You leave school, get your undergrad degree, and get done with your masters. You have officially closed the education chapter in your life. However, little do you know, you’ve also closed the free-social arena section of your life as well.
Making friends is difficult once you graduate and are looking for work, or even if you are working. You can be friendly with your co-workers, but almost never at the same level as you are with your friends from college. (They would probably report you to HR if you even tried making any of the usual jokes that you did around your friends from college).
You always have to maintain a level of professionalism and not succumb to the petty ‘gossip and whine’ sessions you perfected as your pre-Monday morning class routine. Also telling your co-workers your life’s secrets is not really the best idea, especially if they are cutthroat and ambitious, and could turn your “I once attended this crazy party” story into “she is a total party girl” in an instant.
There are several things that you can do to get out of your work/post college social rut. Try them:
1. Exercise in groups! Join a gym! Even if working out really isn’t your thing, there are a lot of fun fitness group activities that you can join that are great opportunities to meet new people. Swim or do a “this many days” challenge. Organized fitness activities can result in like-minded friendships.
2. Get out more! There are some cool places where you can go hang out where you can meet people that share your interests. These include:
- NAPA: NAPA has interesting concerts almost every weekend. Show up frequently enough and you’ll notice that the people that attend are almost always the same. And if you start talking to them, you’ll be initiated into their group no problems, because you bond over the music.
- T2f: T2f has diverse events that cater to your intellectual pursuits, from journalism lectures, to art shows, to open mic nights.
- MAD school: it often puts up plays, stand-up comedies and gigs which are always fun to attend.
- Karachi Arts Council is also a similar fun place that you can acquaint yourself with to improve your social life. These places even have classes so that you can actually refine your creativity and make friends in the process. Look for similar places in your city and let the friendships flow!
3. This is a bit 2000 and late, but the internet is always there in case you don’t want to put yourself out there in the real world. You can just dip your foot in and test the tepid waters. The more current version of this is social apps! Here are some options:
- If you’re totally bored, sites like Omegle.com helps you talk to strangers that have the same interests as you. You don’t have to reveal your true identity and talk about your embarrassing 50-shades of Grey fanfic addiction to your heart’s content, or debate the merits of having an Elder Wand vs. an Invisibility cloak if you love Harry Potter and feel like you’re too old to obsess over it.
- Twitter is also a good place to make new friends. “Twit-ups” are twitter meet-ups that people who have been tweeting and following each other on a regular basis organize for each other to socialize.
- Try Tinder and its many variations (whatever floats your boat). It’s scary but you can find some pretty normal people (yes with social media, normal is a blessing) who share common interests with you that you can chill with once you get to know them a bit better.
- Follow new people on your social media! Add more people to your Snapchat, join a secret Facebook society or just join some common-interest groups online to make like-minded new friends.
So, instead of lamenting over your loss of school friends, and reminiscing about your life as a social butterfly in college, embrace growing up and cultivate new friendships that are more in tune with the new, more grown up you.
Do you think these are good ways of making friends? Have you ever made friends outside of your educational institutions in different ways that we haven’t mentioned? Please tell us, we’re dying to know! The more friends, the merrier right?